I feel quite sorry for Sonya. While formal proposal of marriage and refusals are perhaps a bit old-fashioned in today’s day and age, nonetheless, I can’t help but notice that her plight is quite modern.
I’m sure there are many single women out there today who will agree that they are caught between Mr I-Can’t-Commit and Mr I’m-No-Good-For-You. Sonya has at least had the sense to stay away from Dolohov, but really – is there any good to be had by waiting on Nikolai Non-Commital Rostov?
Also amusing is the ever-present Natasha in the Rostov house. She’s smart enough to know a) that Dolohov is a no-good and b) that Sonya and Nikolai probably aren’t destined for each other – but she never really offers serious moralising or relationship advice. She’s got the observational skills of an adult, without really the judgment or maturity.
But then again, from all we’ve read about the adults in the book, what is maturity? The Kuragin family (Anatole, Ippolit and Helene) are all very sophisticated in public, but have little in the way of maturity or decency. Pierre can’t seem to work out how life works at all. Andrei (at least up until his brush with death) viewed all life through a very dark pair of sunglasses.
So, in the end, Natasha is probably getting closest to the voice of wisdom out of the lot of them.